Tag: psychology

97) Dear Abuser,

“What is wrong with you? What is wrong with you? Jesus Christ, what the hell is WRONG with you?” Your words echo in my mind like a beaten child’s wails, their residue embedded in my tissues and tear ducts and neural networks like a terrorist sleeper cell living invisibly in the city they are Heaven-bent…

96) Abuse, Trauma, Shame, and Healing

Hello Dear Reader, In an upcoming series of posts, I am going to explore the dynamics of the inner monster that seems to doom so many people to suffer lives of loneliness and limitation — Shame.   As we go through these posts, we’ll explore where Shame comes from, what it feels like, how it…

94) The Day I Saw My Future Unfold

I heard a story once about a girl whose parents were murdered right in front of her. She spent the rest of her life selflessly devoted to one person, with seemingly no will of her own. I knew a man once whose boyhood was robbed by war. He spent the rest of his life addicted…

93) How to Not Murder People, Stay Addicted, or Commit Suicide: Part 2 – The Representativeness Heuristic is Sus

The Representativeness Heuristic is at the heart of much of the shitty things we suffer from.  Yep, to the extent that you, and those you care about, have struggled with relationship problems, addictions, emotional issues, and other crappy things, this BOOOOOORING sounding nerd-speak Representativeness Heuristic thingy probably has played a key role in that suffering.…

89) Jordan Peterson: In Conclusion – No Rules for Life

I don’t believe people need “rules,” any rules, for living an optimal life, and for creating an optimal society.  Let me say that again — we don’t need Rules.  None.  Zero.  Zilch.  Nada. What people need is CONNECTION.  We need to be ensconced in a community of people who we know deeply, live with interdependently,…

88) Jordan Peterson: Part 7 – Psychology at the Ending of the World; Subsection 2 – The Doctrine of Original Awesomeness

So what’s the alternative?  Do we need more “rules” to help us live like half-decent people who aren’t slobs and losers and depressed and too-agreeable and “weak” and addicted?  Do we need more external authority figures structuring our lives for us?  Do we need more Dad-advice telling us to clean up our rooms, stand up…

87) Jordan Peterson: Part 7 – Psychology at the Ending of the World; Subsection 1: Where Jordan is Wrong AF

After carefully pointing out, and occasionally flat-out ranting about the irresponsible errors in Jordan Peterson’s public proclamations, I’m ready to sum this up by taking a look at truly the worst part of everything he has said (in my opinion). To put this in context, here’s the deal.  The world is rapidly becoming “fucked”.  That…

74) The Law of Attraction — A Favourite Weapon of Abusers

Ahhhh, the Law of Attraction, that oh-so-lovely-sounding exhortation to focus on the positive. Believe and you can achieve! After all, (Image from https://www.jackcanfield.com/blog/using-the-law-of-attraction/) If you meditate, for example, saying an uplifting phrase in your mind and imagining yourself bathed in a sphere of light, then youʼll be like her: (Image from https://www.jackcanfield.com/blog/using-the-law-of-attraction/) She sure looks…

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