Tag: personal growth

36) Jordan Peterson: Prologue – A personal note

To help guide your expectations of what we’ll explore in this series of posts:  there are 8 key points of contention, and one point of agreement, that I’d like to raise. Here’s a Table of Contents. Prologue:  (i.e., the part after the Table of Contents…)  🙂 Foreplay)  Agreeing on freedom of speech:  yayyy!!! Part 1)…

27) Gratitude Day 7: Breaking Your Vows

I am grateful for a Rumi poem. It’s the opening poem to the beautiful book, The Illuminated Rumi. “Come, come, whoever you are! Wanderer, worshiper, lover of leaving. It doesn’t matter. Ours is not a caravan of despair. Come, even if you have broken your vows a thousand times. Come, yet again , come ,…

12) Ninja Training, Part 3: My first Habit

To illustrate the process outlined in earlier posts, I am choosing EXERCISE. This is a good one, because I’ve set it before, have partial success usually, but can never make it stick. When I was 17, and spent my summer earnings from McDonald’s on a universal gym that I then built in my mom’s basement,…

11) Ninja Training, part 2: WISE goals

I am presenting to the world, the Dolderman Theory of Intrinsic Motivation.  This is rooted in complex systems thinking, humanistic psychology, and modern integrative social-developmental neuroscience.  But for now, let’s stick with the fun, useful part. My claim:  WISE goals rule, especially for long-term happiness. They wipe the walls with those silly SMART goals we’re…

10) Ninja Training — Habit Change, part 1 (or how to stop “being a loser”)

Important Preamble:  Let’s start off with a common understanding here. I am not some motivational guru.  No way man, not even close.  Here’s the thing –each person in life exists within, and indeed is formed out of, a karmic web of infinite cause and effect relationships, which interact dynamically through vastly complicated feedback loops that…

9) Stop trying to hit me. And hit me!

I love the ‘training montage’ moments in movies. Like martial arts movies, when the hero gets his (or, very rarely, her) butt kicked. Hard. Leaving the hero practically dead, washed up, hopeless, beaten and broken. Then some kind person helps the hero, nursing her back to health. And then, training montage time! That’s when all…

8) Gobble Gobble

Celebrating Thanksgiving today. It’s an interesting thing to do, to celebrate the bounty that life brings. I’ve always liked the holiday, and the idea of being grateful for things. But I have to admit, although this makes me sound like a terrible person, the truth is, for most of my life, even when I’m trying,…

3) Unicorns, migraines, and chiropractors

I don’t believe in unicorns. I’d like to though. I mean, wouldn’t you? A world of magic, in which reality isn’t just dead matter heading towards thermodynamic equilibrium, is something I yearn for deeply, and have ever since I was that 5 year old, sitting on his blankie, willing it to fly, or that 10…

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